Most people are under the impression that a clitoris is this impossible to find pearl, hiding in the depths of the vagina. And while it is definitely as precious as a pearl, it's not as mysterious as we make it out to be. It just take a little more digging to find it and those who make the effort will reap the jaw-dropping rewards.
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First of all, let’s make on thing clear. The clitoris is believed to be a small pea-sized sexual organ, when in reality that’s only the tip of the iceberg. And while the external portion of the clitoris is quite tiny, the majority of the organ is resting inside our body. So, when you stimulate your bean, the whole organ is getting aroused deep within your vagina, and that’s why finding the tip is the most crucial part of hunt.
Touch
If you’re trying to find your little pearl merely by using your fingers, then you’ve got a lot of exploring to do. Start at your vaginal cave, and start moving a couple of inches up until you’re right under the pubic bone. You know you’re in the right spot if there’s no pubic hair in that area. Here’s where it can get slightly tricky. If you’re feeling around this zone and you come across a protruding bump that is highly sensitive—ding! Ding! Ding! You’ve found your clit.
But it's not this simple for everyone.
In some cases, there is skin that is covering up your gem. That skin is known as the clitoral hood. All you have to do is use your other hand to gently pull the skin upwards, and the clitoris will then reveal itself.
For those who cannot feel a bump at all, try applying a little more pressure to the area to find that sensitive but golden C-spot.
Mirror
Dr. Patti Britton, clinical sexologist, shares another method of finding your clitoris on Refinery29.
Hold up a mirror to your vagina, and try to use extra lighting to really get up close and personal. Dr. Britton says that your clitoris hood should be at 12 o’clock, while your vaginal opening will be at 6 o’clock. An aroused clitoris is easier to locate, so start stroking the top of your clitoris hood in circular motions. Dr. Britton says:
Your clit, as well as the other aroused parts, will swell, making it much more noticeable.
If you still can’t see a physical nodule but you’re feeling ‘pleasurable sensations’ in that area, then you’ve probably already found your clit.