Getting poked in the butthole, by a finger, a ‘stick’, or even a thin strand of spaghetti can be the most frightening thing for many people. And it’s a shame because with anal sex you can experience a level of pleasure that words cannot even begin describe—and it’s even more intense for anyone who’s got a prostate.
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If you’ve always wanted to open your behind, but end up automatically clenching your butt at the thought of it, here are a few things you can try to coax your backdoor to let a little somethin’ something’ in.
Give your butt a light scrub
While many people prefer douching—flushing out what’s inside your butt with water—having a shower is normally all that's required to prep your butt for some action. Use some soap, gently cleanse the area and you should be ready to go.
But if you do want to do some thorough cleaning, you can use a douche or enema to get gunk out of the deeper parts of your crevice. Before you do, consult your doctor for more information on how to do it safely.
It’s most important to remember that your butt was designed for excretion, so even if you happen to get a little unwanted poo on your finger (or your partner’s shaft) it's completely normal!
Do it solo
Before you get cracking with your partner, it is recommended to first explore that sensitive area by yourself with your fingers. This way you can take all the time you need to stretch out that tiny hole—because believe it or not, that hole can really stretch and fit things you could never imagine. But let’s not get ahead of ourselves.
If you’re new to butt stuff then just start with your finger. Don’t enter the narrow cave just yet, instead stimulate your anus by massaging the outer area. When doing anal, lube is your best friend so squeeze generous amounts of the fluid on your finger, even when if you're not going inside.
Whenever you’re ready and confident to take a poke, first lay on your side with your knees bent for the easiest entry position. Then top off the lube on your finger and the outside of your anus, and very slowly insert your finger inside until you feel comfortable with the sensation. Remember to breathe while you go deeper into your hole and when you’ve reached a depth you’re okay with, you can begin your masturbation shenanigans!
Take it slow the first few times, train yourself, and then you can graduate to bigger fingers, toys, and penises.
