Also known as 'kinbaku', Shibari (meaning 'tying') is a form of Japanese rope bondage. According to Art of Contemporary Shiabri,'Shibari comes from Hojo-jutsu, the martial art of restraining captives', dating back to the 1400s. Today, Shibari is the practice of tying someone up for aesthetic purposes. Using rope to form intricate and highly aesthetic knots and patterns, many people find Shibari to be sexually pleasurable but it can also be used as a form of meditation, relaxation, and trust-building exercise between partners.
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What's the difference between Shibari and normal bondage?
Unlike bondage, where any kind of restraint can be used, Shibari is only practised with ropes. Whilst sexual stimulation can be a part of Shibari, unlike bondage, it is not the sole goal of the experience.
Instead, Shibari focuses on the beautiful side of bondage and emphasises the emotional connection being nurtured between its participants. As Marika Leila Roux, co-founder and creative director of Shibari Study, says 'Shibari is a way of communicating through rope and that makes it magical,' allowing you to deeply understand the intimate connection between your partner's physical and emotional pleasure.
How to get started
Regardless of gender, body type, and sexual orientation, Shibari can be safely practised and enjoyed by all. It's also a fantastic way to add good communication, trust, and spice into your sexual antics.
Before you start, as when considering any new sex act, be sure to discuss your desires with your partner and agree on your boundaries. If you've never engaged in bondage before, ask your partner questions like 'what does it look/sound like when you're having fun' to make sure you are attuned to their emotional well-being. Since Shibari involves a power dynamic between the person being tied up and the person tying, it is also a good idea to agree upon a safe word, such as 'red' which immediately stops the actions if required.
A quick search might show you impressive shots of aerial suspension, but for beginners, starting with rope work on the bed or floor is a must!
As well as educating yourself through online or in-person classes and tutorial videos, make sure to start with short cotton ropes, which tangle less and are softer on the skin!
Sources used:
Cosmopolitan: 'Shibari Is a Sex Practice That’s a Lot Like Bondage—but Better'
Mashable: 'What is Shibari or Kinbaku?'
Art of Contemporary Shibari: 'What is Shibari'
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