Kinks, fantasies, and fetishes: you’d be lying if you said that you didn’t have some too! Traditional and more 'classic' forms of sex are still amazing. However, most of us have a hidden desire (or three) that strays outside the norms. Maybe it is tamer, or it can even be far out of the box. You may have the urge to indulge, or it can be something you regularly dream of in your head with no intention of actually practising.
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Regardless, the fact is that these fantasies play a bigger role in modern sexuality than we think. Having fantasies and kinks are incredibly normal, and with the right partner, consent, and communication, you can seek them out in whatever ways you please.
Here are some of the most popular, do any of these excite you?
Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
These fantasies are cut from a similar cloth! Voyeurism is gaining sexual arousal from watching others engage in sex acts or just being naked. Exhibitionists, on the other hand, get pleasure from being watched while being naked or having sex. This can even manifest as a desire to film or be filmed while in the act. So, if you’ve ever wanted to watch or be watched while things get intimate, these are for you!
Role Play
Ever wanted to add a spicy narrative to your sex to up the ante? One of the most popular ways to indulge in this is to role-play. Partners get creative, and do their best to act out any characters or even real-life situations in a sexual manner, even using costumes and different voices to help make fantasy a reality.
BDSM
It’s one of the most popular kinks and one that is actually an umbrella term for many sub-fantasies, fetishes, and acts. BDSM refers to bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism. Basically, there are a plethora of ways that this can manifest, but at the base, BDSM is all about playing with the power dynamic with one partner being the dominant while the other is submissive. Using an optional array of paraphernalia, like chains, whips, gags, paddles, costumes, and more, sex is (consensually and safely) carried out in some unorthodox ways that usually involve some levels of pain and control.
Foot fetishes
It’s a kink that has a wide range of popularity and notoriety, especially among penis owners. The act of integrating feet into sexual acts or just the act of foot 'worship' (kissing, massaging, etc.) has only become a more and more widely accepted sexual fantasy in the modern age.
Urophilia
Time to take a shower, a golden one, that is! Urophilia (otherwise known as a urination fetish), is when a partner gets pleasure from either getting peed on or by letting it rain on their partner. It is one that is more popular than you might expect, with many ways it can manifest. We suggest if this is your first time indulging, start your experimentations in the shower!
Sources used:
Cosmopolitan: '26 Kinks, Fetishes, and Terms You Should Absolutely Know'
Mind Body Green: 'The Ultimate List Of Kinks & Fetishes, Explained By Sex Experts'
