Being in the same workspace with another person that you like for a protracted time can definitely lead to having some feelings for that person. Think about it, you see the person everyday and get along with them really well. Everyone needs some TLC, so it’s quite normal for you to eventually think of the possibility of getting intimate with them.
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Workplace romance is definitely common in most professional settings, it just depends on how the people involved are able to separate their love/lust life from their work life. Here are some tips in handling the situation if it ever arises.
Never have expectations
A coworker is literally a ‘coworker,’ don’t expect them to be your lover, or be in a relationship with you before or after you have had sex with them. If the discussion comes up and you are both fine with the idea of dating after sex then it’s fine, but don’t bring up the conversation to put pressure on the person you slept with. Sex is sex. Even you've decided to let your bodies do the ‘talking,’ you must deal with the consequences.
Be discreet
It’s imperative to keep your ‘little affair’ private. Don’t bring your sex life to the work place as it will make you look unprofessional. You have to be able to detach your feelings from them when it’s time to work.
If you have to have any ‘meeting,’ then it’s always better outside the work environment. This helps in preventing gossip and having other people discuss your business. Also don’t go about telling everyone that you had sex with someone in the office, it’s never a good look.
Note that there is also an expiry date for everything, so whenever the person tells you they don’t want to have sex with you anymore for whatever reason, be an adult and accept that it was good while it lasted. Having sex with a colleague can actually turn out to be one of your best ‘sexcapades’ if handled the right way.
