Let’s take a trip down memory lane, shall we? Throw it back to those teenage years, when you could make out, grind, and fool around, seemingly endlessly, and it only felt hot and heavy, never boring. What happened to those days?
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Now it seems like as adults, we really breeze through these saucy moments of build-up only to trade it for quickies and the like. If you’re like us, then you might be excited by this sex trend which has seen more and more couples intentionally slowing down before penetration to tap into that fire we felt in the years of our sexual awakenings.
What is Outercourse?
As the name suggests, it is the umbrella term for all the fun, fiery, and sexy things you can do in the bedroom that don’t involve penetration. There’s intercourse, which is still great too, don’t get us wrong, but there is also a whole wide range of extremely pleasurable acts that can be enjoyed without penetration at all! It adds an extra level of sensuality to your sexual endeavors.
The best part is the range of activities that fall under the category of outercourse! It can range from making out, to sensual stroking, spanking, a tantric massage, a spicy session of mutual masturbation, playing with toys, and some good old fashioned dry humping.
Get creative, and explore with your partner all the ways that you can get frisky without necessarily having to go all the way. Penetration does not have to be the only way you get to have a pleasurable time with your partner.
How can I implement outercourse?
When we talk about this kind of sexual activity, you really can go about it in any way you see fit! Outercourse is not only for build up, it’s totally possible to have a high amount of arousal or even orgasm with it alone!
Many consider it more than just foreplay, as that implies that penetrative sex is the main goal of the session. However, you can definitely use a combination of your favourite outercourse acts as a way to really extend, and add some extra tension and pleasure to, your penetrative sex sessions. It’s also perfect and fun to use them on their own.
No matter how you go about it, exploring the outercourse trend could add some much needed spice to your sex life. Whether using these tactics on their own, or in tandem with penetration, adding these activities to your repertoire will only make sex that much more diverse, intimate and exciting!
Sources used:
Women and Home: 'Sex trends 2022 - discover the hottest new bedroom trends, according to experts'
Cosmopolitan: 'Your Everything-to-Know Guide on Outercourse'
