So, you and your partner have been discussing threesomes! Whilst you might think that with voicing this desire the difficult part of the conversation, but that's where you're wrong.
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The the hardest step is finding out whether you and your partner are ready to invite a third into your bed.
But what's the key to a fun, but more significantly, stress-free threesome? Reading the tips below to make sure that you, your partner, and your third are all on the same page!
1. You've found the right people
Threesome's will be their most enjoyable when you've taken the time to reflect on your choice of partners and considered their needs as well as your own desires.
If you're inviting a third person into your existing relationship dynamic, it is best that both you and your partner feel equally attracted to the new addition. This helps prevent one partner feeling guilty or pressured to partake in the threesome and aids in mutual pleasure during the act.
Pro tip: before you start sharing a bed, why don't you all go on a date together? Not only will this increase the sexual tension, but it allows everyone the time and space to decide whether or not having a threesome is in their best interest.
2. You feel comfortable communicating and expressing boundaries
As with any other sex act, it's crucial to talk about and establish limits between you, your partner, and the third person before engaging in actual sex. Setting boundaries and upholding them is the best way to prevent post-threesome regret.
But, the communication doesn't stop when the sex starts! All members of the threesome should also feel confident in their right to revoke consent at any time, even to pre-agreed activities.
3. You’re willing to accept the consequences
For better or for worse, having a threesome has the potential of impacting your relationship. Therefore, we advise that before agreeing to one, all those involved realise that this is a situation where jealousy might involuntarily raise its head.
To help minimise the risk of jealousy, its best to enter into a threesome only if your relationship is stableand you are willing to accept that it might not go smoothly. And, if things don't go as planned, be willing to learn from the mistakes made. After all, aftercare is just as important as the sex itself!
Sources used:
Masterclass: 'How to Have a Threesome: 6 Tips for a Successful Threesome'
Refinery 29: 'How To Make Your Threesome As Romantic As Possible'
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