Although it may seem like sex is all about the body, our capacity to experience and provide sexual pleasure is greatly influenced by our minds. Performance anxiety can be experienced by all, regardless of sexual orientation, gender, or experience level. While some problems encountered during sex require medical intervention (and it is always a good idea to consult a doctor if you are experiencing anything outside of your normal), we took a look at how to overcome some of the psychological sex issues faced by vagina owners.
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1. Arousal
Lack of arousal or difficulty in reaching arousal is one of the most common sex issues faced by vagina owners. For a couple to enjoy penetrative sexual activity, vaginal arousal is highly important, as without sufficient vaginal lubrication, penetration can feel forced, uncomfortable or even painful.
There are many physical or psychological factors that can lower one's ability to feel aroused, ranging from low self-esteem, distorted body image, life stressors, or abuse. Depending on what you think might be the cause of your arousal issues, speak to your partner, a medical professional, such as a gynaecologist, or a psychotherapist / sexuality counsellor to understand the root of your fear and start your healing journey.
2. Unplanned Pregnancy Fear
Whilst for some, fear and sexual pleasure might have some overlap, the fear of getting pregnant is not conducive to getting your groove on. If you're currently not using any contraception, but would like to know your options, check your national health service for online sexual health advice or speak to your gynaecologist/GP. Whatever method you decide works best for you, be sure to inform your partner so that you can both engage in fully informed consensual sex.
3. Painful Penetration
Pain during intercourse can also be caused by a number of different reasons, including overly tight pelvic muscles, vaginal infection, or inadequate arousal. Take your time enjoying foreplay in order to rule out the more extreme possibilities. During foreplay, the vagina usually produces vaginal fluid that facilitates penetrative sex, but if you find yourself lacking in that department, add a store-bought lubricant to your playtime.
If sex continues to be painful, consult a medical professional before attempting intercourse again, so that a physical problem doesn't also turn into a physiological one.
Sources used:
Swirlster: 'Most Common Sex Issues Couples Have And How To Solve Them'
Everyday Health: '5 Sex Problems Women Face'
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