It’s the classic problem for all penis owners. You’re caught up in the moment, giving it your all to your partner. Then, oops, that final drum roll starts to build up! You’re not ready to let it go just yet, and your partner certainly doesn’t want to stop the steamy action already.
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Fret not, you’re certainly not alone and it’s definitely happened at least once to all the phallic phenoms out there. It’s natural, sex feels good and your penis can get a little bit over-excited. You want to enjoy yourself while also fully satisfying your partner, of course.
Lots of sex columns out there will tell you about methods to elongate the dirty dance like using desensitisation sprays, squeeze methods, Kegels, or to stop and start. All of these are formidable strategies, but did you realise that even the way that you have sex can affect if you’re an early shooter? That’s right! Let us let you in on a great position that could help you elongate your sessions!
The cross
While there are some undertones in the name, we can assure you that this position is anything but holy. Here’s how it works. The penetrated partner lays on their back, while the penetrating partner is on their side. The partner on their back should have their torso at a 90-degree angle to their partner, with their bum facing the pelvis of the penetrating partner, draping their legs over their partner’s hips. The penetrating partner enters with their hips against the back of their partner's thighs.
Voila! Now, the key to this position is that since there is limited range of motion it can be hard to just thrust with no regard. Take your time with deep, elongated strokes, or grind against your partner's hips while being deeply in. One of the great benefits of it is that it doesn’t take much energy to lay on your side, so you can focus on hitting and exploring all those angles.
A couple of other tips
Aside from just this position, it helps to practise some self-control. Thrusting as hard and fast as possible is not always necessary to get your partner off. Focusing on foreplay can also help extend sessions without using penetration and can also help because not every partner can achieve an orgasm through penetration alone. Have fun, take it easy, and enjoy sex for longer!
Sources used:
Promescent: '12 Sex Positions to Help You Last Longer in Bed (With Images)'
Prime Men's Medical: '4 Sex Positions to Last Longer in Bed'
